Whether you’re going through a rough patch in your relationship, newly single, or falling in love and don’t know WTF to do with these intense emotions, seeing a lil’ square of advice popping up on your phone can do wonders to ground you and remind you what’s what. These 18 popular relationship accounts on Instagram are 100 percent worth following for their advice. You’ll get some wisdom and perspective in your feed that applies to you, no matter where you’re at in your love life:
If you’re looking for original advice mixed in with some really gut-punching attributed quotes, it’s almost impossible not to become obsessed with licensed marriage and family therapist Vienna Pharaon’s @mindfulmft account.
If your tendencies to people-please have started to impact your own happiness, you need to head over to author and relationship blogger Natalie Lue’s page rtfn.
Therapist, author, and host of the famous “Where Should We Begin” podcast, Esther Perel is an authority on all things love, sex, dating, relationships, marriage, and oh yeah, cheating.
Another solid account to follow for a mix of mostly original, sometimes quoted, tidbits of advice from professor and psychologist, Alexandra Solomon, PhD.
Come for the fun graphics, stay for the comments where people pour their hearts out. The @werenotreallystrangers account is run by Koreen, a model and artist from L.A.
If you need a moment of zen or a reminder that it’s okay to prioritize yourself, Shadeen Francis, a licensed marriage and family therapist, posts inspiring quotes that will help you re-center yourself.
For those that feel burnt out or frustrated in relationships, or are just generally human with ups and downs, therapist Lisa Olivera’s earth-toned pick-me-ups belong in your feed ASAP.
Looking for clear-cut examples of exactly what behavior is and isn’t okay to accept in a relationship? Therapist and writer Nedra Glover Tawwab’s Instagram is full of bullet point lists outlining exactly what to do, what to avoid, ways of coping, and how to be a supportive friend and partner.
Searching for more actionable advice? Psychologist Nicole LePera gets into more healing-oriented posts on her @the.holistic.psychologist account.
Couples therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw is the brains behind the popular @lizlistens account, which is full of posts on how to be a better partner, listener, and communicator.
Specializing in relationship therapy and self-love, licensed therapist Carrie Babe fills her @midtowntherapist account with soothing reminders that it’s okay to want more in relationships.
As great as some of the heavier stuff can be, sometimes a little humor and levity is the best way to learn a lesson. Clinical psychologist Betsy Chung runs her @lovealways.drbetsy account with a dash of humor and meme-ery that still manage to be full of heart.
Known for his blunt but truthful advice, Mark Groves, a “human connection specialist” posts relationship tips you might not want to hear, but need to hear.
If handwritten notes on chic pieces of torn, expensive-looking paper is your jam, @notesfromyourtherapist is about to flood your feed with the most aesthetically pleasing nuggets of wisdom around. With an M.Ed in Marriage and Family Therapy and Mental Health Counseling, Allyson Dinneen posts some seriously enlightening words of advice (all in v. covetable handwriting).
Ever find yourself lost for words in the middle of a tense argument or disagreement? Follow relationship coach Silvy Khoucasian’s Instagram account and you’ll discover a ton of tools to more productively deal with conflict.
John and Julie Gottman are one of the best known names in marriage and relationship therapy for a reason. They’ve spent the last 40 years studying relationships and have published several books on the topic. Their Instagram feed is full of helpful infographics on everything from how to initiate and refuse sex gently without hurting your partner, to straight up advice column-like questions and answers.
For gorgeously designed typographic treatments that are equal parts art and therapy, psychology graduate and art school drop out Tyler Spangler’s posts will cheer you up in more ways than one.
Whether you’re struggling to let go of a toxic friendship or fully move on from The One That Got Away and Is Probably Never Coming Back, licensed therapist Eliza G. Boquin’s posts will make you feel strong enough to walk away without making you feel guilty for staying all this time.